This is stupid

[OhaiAbigail]

Buuut, I'm gonna post here anyway because you guys are cool. I'm throwing a halloween party, invited 20+ people, and no one has RSVP'd to come. In fact, a lot of people have just said "Umm..no thanks"

Super awesome. I feel pretty shitty about it.


:/

[Kiefer]

That sucks, I'd come if I could!

[Stephanie]

I had something similar happen a couple years ago. Most mortifying experience of my life. I'm still in shock.

I organised what I thought would be an "annual" networking picnic for all my peers at a local beach...spent $$ on games/raffle/advertising/food...I cooked...I baked.....
Everybody was showing interest and confirming by email.....thought it was a "great" idea...I was excited!

I got there early and set up balloons and picnic tables and chairs.


Guess how many showed up?

ONE.

I made her wear a name tag.

[OhaiAbigail]

I had something similar happen a couple years ago. Most mortifying experience of my life. I'm still in shock.

I organised what I thought would be an "annual" networking picnic for all my peers at a local beach...spent $$ on games/raffle/advertising/food...I cooked...I baked.....
Everybody was showing interest and confirming by email.....thought it was a "great" idea...I was excited!

I got there early and set up balloons and picnic tables and chairs.


Guess how many showed up?

ONE.

I made her wear a name tag.

THATS HORRIBLE! Yeah, thankfully I hadn't purchesed any of the supplies yet. I was gonna spend like 60 bucks on Alcohol tonight, so thankfully I knew before hand, after checking the facebook event wall. But, oh well. My good friend Vesta came over and surprised me today cause she knew I was upset. It made me feel much better Tomorrow night I'm going to go see a movie with some friends so that'll cheer me up. Sorry that happened to you Stephanie, that's so lame.

[zensunni]

Yea, there's a lot of flaky people out there. Finding ONE person who's "down for whatever" is a rare thing indeed. Thankfully, I have a couple good friends like that.

For other people, I usually tell them that they'd better be there or I'll to send a swat team and drag their god-forsaken asses from their house if they don't show up. I find that strategy works pretty well.

But kidding aside, I think it's good to put a bit of social pressure on people to come out once in a while. You can easily make someone look like an jerk for not showing up. It also makes them 100% certain that their company is appreciated.

If they still don't show or respond, then give up on them and find other people who are worth your time. Flaky people are just not worth the effort.

I could draw the obvious correlations between this behavior and the media about this. People see it on TV, so they copy this flaky, non-meaningful social behavior.

[MiCK]

My wife and i organized a new years eve party. live music, drinks, etc...all paid for!! invited i guess 30-40 people...all comfirmed. 10 showed. 2 stayed...the other split after an hour due to prior commentments...have we done that again? NO.

it is actually nice spending new years eve alone sometimes...watching Dick Clarks ball drop in Times Square

[meezly]

yup, Halloween and New Year's are the worst times due to the high expectations and social anxieties involved. you can't just have a simple straightforward party, and usually you have to go all out to "compete" with all the other events and get any interest. it's like being in business! and people on the receiving end can be so lame, e.g. waiting til the last minute to commit to anything cuz they want to hedge their bets on possibly a better party, or you're worried if you attend one function you'll insult another host, etc. it helps that my partying days are over, cuz I haven't bothered attending or hosting for years now. so much nicer to be on the outside during those times

[Penguin]

I once had to give a seminar presentation for one attendee.

In a way, it was worse than having nobody show up at all. A big Powerpoint presentation that's designed for a medium-sized group just feels awkward when you're giving it to one other person.

[Demojen]

I don't know about that Pengu. Sometimes that one person just clicks and a think tank is born.
I've found some individuals, like Blondin for instance can juice the brain.

I blame the forum tag.
Teehee!...Imaginary number....