This is a discussion on Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? within the Atheism forums, part of the Atheism category; For the sake of discussion (and I know some of you have dated religious ppl despite you being atheist), what ...
Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? For the sake of discussion (and I know some of you have dated religious ppl despite you being atheist), what is it like being an atheist and dating someone religious? I'd imagine it might be quite frustrating at times when it comes to discussions about death, life, lifestyles, afterlife, abortion, drinking, and an array of other topics. How does one put up with a partner that thinks you're going to hell?
Chris
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Respect for each other and agreeing to disagree.
I've been involved/married/dated muslim men since I was 16 years old. (I'm now 40)
I've also been involved long-term with an Atheist.
Perhaps luckily, I've NEVER had any muslim try and force their religion on me.
(Christians are a different story.)
Could be because I celebrate Christmas and Easter (tradition) and they've always assumed I was Christian or from a Christian background. Religion is really something that I rarely talk about since it isn't part of my daily life.
I'm sure if I was thrown into an Islamic world I would eventually pick up a lot of their habits and customs and maybe even enjoy some of it. It wouldn't make me believe in God.
Same with the men I've dated. They pick up a lot of Western culture and habits but at their core they are still muslim and carry that belief system.
This was the subject of one of my very first posts on this forum...Originally Posted by Chris
Let's just say I'm sure it bothers him more than it does me!
Last edited by Louis; 10-10-2009 at 10:52 PM. Reason: Merge
Re: Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? When I was young, I was with a "true believer" for about two years who didn't try to force the religion on me, who was curious about my atheism, but who literally believed in hell. He sort of hinted that earth was actually hell and we were all already damned. It was sad, because it seemed to be paranoia bordering on something quite serious.
In my mid twenties, I had a short hot affair with a Korean girl who I think knew something was up with me, but didn't ask a lot of questions. I really liked her. We talked about getting married and having kids, but she ended up moving to Korea and becoming a fundie Christian. Apparently Korean Christians are hard right concerning their faith. She married someone like minded. She invited me to the wedding, but I couldn't bring myself to go.
I couldn't imagine being with anyone that didn't reflect my feelings and world view almost exactly, which is how it's been for almost fifteen years now.
Re: Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? But don't you find that as time goes by with one person that your views often start to merge together?
I'm very influenced by my partner's thoughts and feelings on things and I think it's the same for him.
We each have given a little of ourselves...it will be interesting to see how things are in 15 years!
(although I doubt he'll be marching in the pride parade with a pork chop in one hand and a Stella Artois in the other...)
Re: Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? Absolutely. I know that neither of us are exactly the same person we were at the beginning, mostly because of our shared experiences. It isn't to say we've lost something of our identities... quite the reverse. For me, I've become the best person I could be thanks to my partner. *sigh*
Sorry for the mush. I just feel lucky.
Mmmmm.... Stella and pork.............
Re: Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? I just couldn't do it. Dating a religious person would be craziness to me.
On the other hand, there are a lot of people that say they are religious, but they're not really and they don't believe in going to church and stuff. It's more just a default position because they haven't thought about it. That I can handle.
Truth be told, this topic is just reinforcing the nagging notion that I should really be getting out and about.
Truth Seeker or Opinion Enforcer?
Re: Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? Especially after that shave and haircut.
Re: Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? Also, when you think about it, if a person was TRULY "that" religious they probably wouldn't be anywhere NEAR an atheist either!
I'm sure that's partly why my relationships have been positive experiences so far. I seem to pick men who are apart from their families and friends and thrown into MY world more than I am thrown into theirs.
Louis, I love your mushiness. I love that you are in love. Reading positive things about relationships is so refreshing!
Re: Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? This makes a lot of sense. If I were to suddenly find myself single, I wouldn't go after an atheist or a nominal Christian woman. I have one atheist friend and a bunch of nominal religious friends but I would not enter into a love relationship with someone who did not share my faith.
I agree with Zensunni on this matter.
FL
Re: Dating atheists vs theists, what's your experience? I would hate to agree with FL since he is such a nutbar but he is correct (sort of),
faith has nothing to do with it, I walked out on a date because she wanted to say
grace before dinner. I have sooo little respect for religion, and believers seem
to lack certain um .. rationality. I couldn't live with someone who belives in zombies, invisible
friends and wants the world to end.
The boss and I walked into each other arms and it was never discussed
but we somehow knew. Maybe it was because we both preferred t bed to pew on sundays, there
were no bibles evident. It was never talked about until about a year after we met and
'we' got pregnant. (planned), and my Dad called asking about when we were getting married
and who would baptize the little fella.
SHe laughed about dunking people in water, and then said if we got married, then calling
the kids little bastards would be a bad thing.
I knew I found my mate earlier, but this made it solid.
" Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent. Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God? "
- Epicurus
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